So so it’s very easy, especially for high achievers to get focused on our weaknesses and I think our culture is very much raised us to focus on our weaknesses for me, I was this the aim to being a straight-A student and if I was getting a B in class that I wasn’t particularly my forte like algebra two or something or received. The one C that I got, was the class that I then had to hyper-focus on was my weakness class instead of the ones that I was already good at like English and writing and drama. That was all my eight classes and so we’re kind of conditioned from an early age to focus on our weaknesses. And promoting ourselves can be a weakness because we’re so focused on our weaknesses, rather than looking at the strengths looking at what is it that we were doing well, what is it that we’re doing right? What is it that we’re doing that we’re so proud of? What is it that we can celebrate about ourselves, and who we are, who we become what we’ve done, what we’ve created, and moving from there have really training our minds to embrace not only our own successes but other people’s as well. Whenever I see any sort of jealousy in my industry, or in any industry, really, typically I like to say, well, that’s you’re seeing somebody else’s success, but you’re forgetting to see your own. And a lot of times that’s when jealousy comes up, and that comparisonitis in essence was where we’re seeing somebody else having success in the way that we want to have the success we’re not recognizing our own incremental progress toward having that that same success that we desire it just in our own way, and recognizing that we are on each on our own journeys and that journey is worthy of being shared. And being promoted because your journey will help serve and supports someone.
I had a friend come on my podcast to Princeton to be and she was sharing about how she’s very satisfied having a successful six-figure business with only a handful of clients that she can support and that she can really do her best and share is sharing and supporting her clients and then not wanting to work that hard for much else. And she was okay with that. Because she got to have time with her husband and with her kids and her family. And so being able to have, she was able to write what success was for her and so often we’re living by somebody else’s definition of what success is like if you’re an influencer so often it’s like, oh, I need the Ferrari or I need you to know, to be jet setting around the world in order to look like a success. But is that ultimately your definition or what I like to call why and what the Indian culture calls your dharma? Of what is that your dharma? Is that your purpose? Is that really your purpose to be successful in that way. It’s like some people think, oh, that my way to be successful as I need to go to school, go to college, become a doctor, etc, etc. But follow that path. Now. That’s not for everybody. I know many people who wanted to become doctors and then turn around and create amazing influencer brands. And being a doctor is great, but it wasn’t their calling. It wasn’t their dharma versus and so allowing yourself to be exploratory and get curious about that purpose and that definition of success. For me, I feel very successful in the Hollywood industry that I was in in my early 20s Because I was able to write a feature film that had a major movie star in it called bro starring Danny Trejo. And I was able to do that and get it, you know, it got distributed, it’s gone on Netflix. I felt fulfilled in achieving that level of success and I didn’t really feel called to go after more in that industry at this at that moment in where I was, because the other offerings of what I was getting, I was just like, Ah, I don’t really want to write that and I don’t really want to do that. And I didn’t really feel like, I wanted more. And so allowing yourself to let go of the form in which you think success should be is well, like, I think some people are incredibly successful as being a stay at home moms like their success is their children. And they may post about it on Instagram or do fun reels, that is theirs. Success is really being an amazing mother. And to each their own.
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